I am not the person I used to be. I am better than that. I am now the man I should have been many years ago and I am grateful for the pitfalls along the way as they have taught me to be humble.
It is vitally important to talk and share, especially we men, we have a few extra bells and whistles added with regards to opening ourselves up to our truth. Sharing our truth is scary because we have, as men, been conditioned to ‘be strong’ and ‘don’t cry’.
The silence is deadly and so dibilitating for us in each person’s unique way. I kept quiet for many many wasted years.
It is getting better but men’s stuff is now getting the attention we need. This is in no way putting men above women, we all get abused, it is in fact bringing men’s stuff upto the same level of knowing as women’s stuff. We men spend too much time worrying about what other men will think when a lot of the men will also be thinking similar thoughts.
We need to allow ourselves to be open and vulnerable, surrender to it and then start the road to recovery. Do Not be the victim, be the survivor.
Abusers are predators. This is just what they are, hunting for their prey. The innocents are the prey and they hunt for them. By breaking the silence and encouraging openness and truth then we can only hope to force these predators out into the open where they can never hunt again.
We must now move and make a stand, enough is enough and these people must not have any hiding places .
“Life: ”There will be no receipt, no exchange, no refund . So look after the one you’ve got and enjoy the ride.”
“Don’t keep your pain to yourself like I did, reach out and seek
professional help. Remember, it’s never too late to start the recovery process.”
“Change your thoughts and you change your world.”
NORMAN VINCENT PEALE
”To transform our society into a truly free one, we need both genders to be fully alive. The world is waiting for men – it needs the activated and fully awakened male to confront everything from the fossil-fuel industry that is baking our planet to our children’s needs to play happily with Dad in the backyard after work.”
I am driven by my passion to empower others especially men to open up and share emotions to start the road to openness and recovery.
What Drives you and where does it come from?
We review our goals every 12 months, usually as the New Year approaches. Recently we read through our list of priorities for 2011 and found we had accomplished about half of our objectives, some of the other 50% had changed completely due to altered circumstances and some we needed to reassess. Even changes in circumstances can produce unexpected opportunities that can alter the course of our destiny as we are achieving our goals.
We certainly found that out when we made the decision in January 2012 to write the book about how I survived my childhood traumas. We had to be open to change and move outside our comfort zones, which was both scary and exciting at the same time. So already, and it’s only October 2012 at the moment, we have accomplished one of our biggest ever goals – to have a book published.